Qualities that keep that candle burning

Susan got married to the one she termed as her endless love, the guy had all the looks she yearned for. Tall, dark and handsome, the guy was well kept and had a good job that can sustain both of them. She was the luckiest of all ladies in the world. She could wake up early in the morning prepare breakfast , iron his clothes and ensure his husband reaches his workplace on time. She truly love him and could sacrifice all just for him.

Two years passed with laughter, cuddles, snuggles on sweet nothings, love was in the air and they both felt it in their fingers and toes. A break was not considered a choice and was not in their vocabulary. They shared even on chores and both of them were happy. However Tim, the husband came home one evening looking depressed. He had lost his job. He shared with his better half all that ensued but she could not believe him.

The guy was falsely accused of creating advances towards her boss, who has been seen by fellow workers to have done the exact to him but he refused and declined the offer for a top position f he consented. Though its normal for one to be jealous, hers was over board and figuring out that she will no longer enjoy the wealth they had, love started deteriorating as days go by. The notion that love will never end faded as break up stared at them on the face. All the sacrifices became a thing of the past as they were no longer in good terms the candle they had lit, which shone brightly faded and dimmed out. Susan sought self satisfaction and happiness. True love is not built on self satisfaction it has the following values.

Mutual happiness, love is all about ensuring that both of you are happy. Where only one person smiles it means the other is suffering for the sake of keeping the relationship. Love is a spell ignited by two and should be enjoyed by both. All should be satisfied by all your endeavors.

Understanding, this entails recognizing your strengths and weaknesses, it helps quell suspicion that one party is cheating. Knowing him in and out will help identify his weakness and ways of ensuring it doesn’t affect him.

Trust worthiness, if you don’t trust your partner, that is not true love. You will always feel insecure about his actions, which is not healthy for a lasting relationship. It is the core value in every relationship. Violation of trust will impact negatively on marriage or the relationship.

Unconditional, on marriage vows, its always for better for worse, for richer for poor and so forth, there should never be conditions to suit only one party. The conditions are there to be embraced by both whether good or bad. You should not produce conditions in exchange for love.

Respect, always learn to respect and it will return to you. The good book tells us that we should do to others what we would like the do unto us.