They say you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet the prince or the princess. This brings about an illusion that the journey to get or achieve the best is always rough. Last week we realized that Breakups in today’s marriage has become a norm as many fail to define marriage. It has been said that lack of foundation and the love of your partners possessions as a driving force rather than intimacy.
Lack of basic values that will facilitate respect to human life, fidelity, the knowledge of right and wrong among others have been attributed to the break ups. Those in relations when asked if they truly love their partners with all their hearts, a bigger percentage will definitely say they do and can no longer look further for greener pastures only to realize later they are in the wrong pool.
This kept me thinking, how do you know that the person you are dating is the right one for you?
Physical attraction has been a factor that has been given the highest priority, this is despite the saying that ‘all that glitters is not gold’. Many have said the beauty is in the eye of the beholder and no one would like to be the laughing stock by having a poor selection or rather engaged to an ugly lady or man.
The ladies say “ I would like to have a dark, tall, handsome man”, the man on the other end would prefer a lady with sizable burst, with dimples and so forth. Only to realize they are not compatible after marriage. They both tend to shun the fact or rather fail to see beyond the looks. The qualities of good mates are never taken into consideration as they are viewed to come at the end of the wish list.
We both have different likes and dislikes it is important to know your partner very well to avoid heartbreaks. Many argue that during courtship, each side tends to hide their weaknesses, this may either be due to fear of loosing the partner or just a feeling that it is not important for them to discover. Some partners as we have discovered are either gay or lesbians in nature or have incompatible lifestyles and goals. However due to looks or lack of identifying the key qualities one hides the game to avoid killing the spell sparked by the two.
Lack of defining marriage, being selective in petty qualities and short courting periods are the main reasons for making the wrong choices .while being open and viewing marriage as an institution while knowing what is right for you are the things to look for to avoid finding oneself in disarray.